Here are some tip-offs that tell me you and/or your date are not ready to date after divorce.Of course there are some men and women who are, or will be, ready and able to date soon after divorce.The problem with using other people as heartbreak menders is that it can turn into a pattern.Next thing you know you've got a list of busted relationships a mile long and no idea as to why your love life seems destined for failure.You don’t want to go from one relationship and jump into another relationship. I would tell anyone looking to start dating after divorce not to be in a hurry. I think it was year four when my ex came back and I started getting into the dating scene, because all of the sudden I had weekends open, and I was interested.
You’re dipping your toe in the online-dating waters.
"You may feel remorse for what you did or didn't do, or wonder what you did wrong.
Don't dwell on those feelings, but make room for them," Falk says. There is an empty space where something once filled it up, even if that something may not have been desirable." Don't tote that heavy baggage from your previous relationship into your new life.
As anyone who has ever been there will tell you, be sure to stay away from any new relationships until you are good and ready.
When you're on the rebound, you are especially vulnerable and could put yourself in situations or relationships that you normally wouldn't be caught dead in.